In a quiet moment in their kitchen, on a weekend morning, Jennifer fixes brunch. Kate says, 'Friends ask us. Don't you two ever fight?' And Kate answers, 'Oh, we argue and disagree. But we don't scream and yell at each other. Early on, we just…
Jennifer visited the spa she belongs to as often as she could during her pregnancy, in order to get the proper exercise. Jennifer often dreamed of having a girl, but emphasized that she would welcome a baby boy just as much. All of her dealings had…
Kate and Jennifer attended several birth classes with heterosexual couples. They practiced breathing and relaxation techniques in the living room of one of the expectant couples. A few weeks before the baby was born, the baby turned transverse, and…
Two months before the baby is due, Jennifer inspects her changing figure in an old mirror in her bedroom. Jennifer says, 'My dad said that the one thing he couldn't stand about my being gay was that I wouldn't have kids. He always thought I'd be…
At a baby shower, friends gave the mothers-to-be clothes, a baby carrier and several stuffed bears. The community in which the couple live has a large lesbian community, which includes other lesbian mothers, and a feminist newspaper. Jennifer…
On a day off from her job as a technical editor at a computer firm, Jennifer visits a nearby beach. 'I'd always fantasized that I would meet someone who wanted children too,' Jennifer says. 'But I guess I was getting kind of cynical about it ever…
As soon as Jennifer found out she was pregnant, she had regular appointments to see her obstetrician. At times, Kate was as much a patient as Jennifer.
Because Jennifer, 28, at the time, was three years older than Kate, both agreed that she should go first with a pregnancy. There were two options, artificial insemination or intercourse. They decided to find a donor and use a baster to transfer the…
Toby's Mothers--They live in a world that thinks lesbians and children don't mix. But Kate started saving baby clothes at 15, and Jennifer could never imagine a life without kids. And once they found each other, though they knew it wouldn't be…